I just don't understand....

I just don't understand....

I do not understand how everyone under the sun can pop out children left and right. Some deservant, some not so much and others not at all. I am tired of seeing women who already have children that they struggle to take care of pregnant again. I hate seeing a man who pops out 5 children and doesn't do shit to take care of them produce more children. You have people like me who want nothing more in the world to have a child and have not had any luck what so ever. There are so many children out here who are neglected and even murdered because these parents aren't deserving. It's such a shame. All I want in life is a baby of my own that I can love and provide for, it's not the same when it is someone else's child. I guess my time will come when God feels like I am ready.

Exes

Funny thing happened yesterday, my ex who I was with since August of 2011 and we broke up on and off throughout the relationship which officially ended in December of 2012 text me. Now the entire "relationship" was a joke he used me and played with my heart while all along he had no intentions of ever being faithful, you know how I know? Well let's see, he conceived a child with some female he introduced to me as a friend in August of 2011. I had never been to his house, he had never been to mine. The relationship that we had mostly consisted of the hotel after the club closed when he came down to "work". Not much of a relationship if you ask me, I damn well deserved better. Now we ended officially in December and he got married in April to the girl he conceived this child with.... hmmm sounds fishy. But the funny thing is he text me questioning my relationship. I have not spoke to this man in 3 months, haven't been friends with him on Facebook and yet he knows everything going on in my life.... Good. Then he knows I am happier then I have ever been. I may have started dating a man who once dated this female that I knew, this girl and I were nothing more then facebook and myspace acquaintances so I could care less about her. No I was not talking to him while they were together, nor even when he was in prison. I started talking to him in December of 2012 and been going strong since then. No matter how many obstacles we have came across we have made it through which is what we will continue to do. Exes will not break us, we have something better then they ever will. His ex has tried to talk shit about me to him making me sound like a bad person and yet he is still at home with me where he belongs. She has texted my ex and told him a bunch of things that really is not his nor her concern. I wish everyone would move on with their lives and leave ours alone. If he is happy in his marriage then why text me questioning my relationship, and if she has moved on and is happy with her new man then I wish she would stop texting, calling and emailing my man. It only makes sense to be concerned with your own relationship.

Man oh man

Talk about a crazy weekend. I knew women were thristy yet I never really experienced seeing them truly in action outside of the internet. Friday night I went to a Male Revue for the first time, now I didn't go for myself I went with my boyfriend, his brother and his woman. They had a job there so us girls tagged along to spend time with our men but we got to experience the thrist first hand. Now don't get me wrong it was very entertaining yet I would not have paid $25 to go and see something that I can get and enjoy to the fullest at home. I do not know how many of these women were single but I know they all acted it. I have never seen women act like animals until that night. Before the male entertainers came out two women were already drunk and came over and began to dance and rub on me. Now I am not the type that likes attention drawn to me and when there are random women dancing on you and your picture is being taken then needless to say attention was drawn. On top of that when the first entertainer came out one of the females that was dancing on me was grabbing all over him and just being very obnxious. I have never seen so many women ghawking over men, now the thing is we want to always talk about how dirty men are and how they are dogs and pigs for the way they view women, thing is I have been to numerous gentlemen clubs and not once in my life have I ever seen one man let alone a room full of 50 act like starving dogs after a cat. My man was amazed by the acts of these women as well, I was like I would never act like that, even if he was not around. The entertainers were handsome and they had skills but when you have someone at home that you love I see no need in wasting money on something that you can't enjoy long term. I guess I am a rare breed of woman.

Everybody Plays the Fool

I am seriously in my feelings today, I just want to know how much can one person take? How many broken hearts can a person bare before they are completely done? I cannot answer this question honestly because I've thought numerous times that I was done.... Done being cheated on, done being hurt, done being left to look like a fool for still loving after being played. Once you find the love that you think will NEVER make you feel that way your whole mindset changes..... until the day they fall into the same old routine as the others. It's a never ending cycle, you do right, get accused of doing something wrong when all along it is the other person who is fucking up everything you ever wanted with them. Who is to blame? I want to say the other person but maybe it is us, the ones who continue to put yourself in that situation, like what the fuck is wrong with you? Why give your heart to someone when deep down you know how it is going to turn out? The lies though, the lies are what gets to me, just be honest. Don't lie to my face and have me believing you when you know as soon as it comes out of your mouth that it's a lie. When are people going to man up? If this is what you want in life then maybe you should just let it be known from the start, if you want to fuck others and tell them you love them all while you have someone at home waiting and loving you then don't get into a relationship to begin with.

Baby Momma's & Baby Daddy's

I had a friend request to write about baby mommas and baby daddys so here it is. Her concern was baby mommas who use their child support money to support herself and yet try to get more money out of the fathers for things that the children need I.E. bottles, diapers, clothes, hair cuts, shoes, etc. Now I know a lot of fathers get away with not having to pay child support or if they do it is a minimal amount but regardless of how much he is paying ladies use that money to support your children, not get your nails done, not to get a new cell phone, not to go out and party. I know fathers who take damn good care of their children and still get shafted because the mother has custody so they like to play these hard working men to get more money out of them. Not cool. Then you have these baby mommas who are used to their dope boy baby daddys and the money being there at all times whenever you call and he still doesn't get to see his children like he should, but what about those men who are growing up and realizing the dope game isn't where he needs to be and is trying to get his life on track yet these baby mommas are acting greedy AF!! What good is the dope boy when it takes the father out of your children's lives for the time he is locked up- you aren't getting money out of him and he isn't seeing the children. Ladies stop being so damn greedy, it is not a good look at all. I honestly can say that I have nothing bad to say about the majority of baby daddys that I know because the men bust their asses to take care of children and in the end get played by these women. Women need to stop asking for hand outs when they are capable of taking care of their children if they used the money the received for what they receive it for. Men need to stop bitching about their baby mommas asking for money when you have no job, no income and do not see your children. Men get a job, and Ladies you too!


In the end we all have to remember one thing... these are the people you chose to lay down and produce children with. We all choose our own destiny.

Is what's good for the goose good for the gander??

We all hear the old sayings from our family members such as "What's good for the goose is good for the gander", "the pot calling the kettle black" and "two wrongs don't make a right". Plus many more but I want to touch on the first one in this blog.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.... what does this mean exactly? Here is a definition that I found to maybe help us understand this better.

It's often used today to say - If it's OK for you to do it, then it must be OK for your spouse or mate to do it too.

If you are fooling around, don't be surprised to find out your wife or husband is too!

Now people, look at it this way if you would get pissed off at your woman/man for doing something that you are doing do you really think you should be doing it? You are in a relationship as equals, you both bring things to the table so why would it be right for you to be chillin' with some chick/dude when you are away from your significant other if you would get pissed about your significant other chillin' with some other chick/dude while you are away.

Thing is people don't seem to care about feelings anymore, if you love someone you wouldn't do anything to make them feel unloved, their relationship threatened or not wanted. Ladies and Gentlemen, think before you do, that's always the best thing to do. Ask yourself would I get mad if my man/woman was out doing the same thing I am without me? Trust has a lot to do with this saying as well, at least in my eyes. It's not necessarily not trusting your significant other but you have thirsty males/females out there that you have to worry about.

This saying also is good for those parents who want to change up the rules for their daughters and sons, meaning you cannot make rules for things such as dating and not make it unanimous around the board. Your daughter can't date until she is 18 then your son shouldn't be allowed to either. Why do parents accept a son having a child at such a young age easier than a daughter, either way they are your children and the standards should be the same.

Life is sometimes shitty- that's when you flush it and start with a clean bowl!!

So life is shitty? Things just aren't going how you expected them to? Everything seems to be going downhill? Well here's a solution, change it. 

Everyone wants to complain and cry about how horrible their lives are yet they do not want to step up and do what it takes to change it. Sometimes people have to forget about others and their feelings and focus on themselves. 

I know I have been that person who was so unhappy with her life and complained all the time but something came over me that made me realize no one can change my life except for myself. I had to stop feeling sorry for myself and make a change. I have since decided to go back to school to make a better life for myself and future family, I have stayed with the same job for almost a year now which is good for me because I need to support myself and not depend on others. I left a toxic "relationship" even though I thought I was madly in love with this man and opened my heart up to someone I least expected and have no regret in doing so. I have never been happier in my life and once you experience true love you automatically realize those others meant nothing. Pure puppy love. 

I just want to reach out to everyone out there who thinks life isn't going to get any better and that this "shit" is how it is suppose to be and let them know it's not. Your life is what you make of it, if it's shitty flush it and start with a clean bowl.